Why allowing help is better than asking for help.

Recently, a friend of mine bought me a session with her life coach and, after a while of working out what the best use of the call would be, I finally had the session. I didn’t know what to expect but not that long into it, the coach asked me if I’d ever had hypnosis as that seemed to be the best way to address the issue I had explained to him.

Cut to about 45 minutes later, I came out of some form of trance, feeling really relaxed and my sensations and perspective on how to address my issue had been changed in a way I simply wouldn’t have been able to come up with myself.

I’m not here to publicise the benefits of hypnosis as this is the only experience I have with it and this experience was very specific.

What I, however, think is a richer “take away” is the role that being open to receiving help has on us pursuing and realising our dreams. And let me emphasise that I didn’t say asking for help but rather being open to receiving help.

Miss independent here can relate extremely well with the weighty feeling ‘I need to learn to ask for help’ can entail. Or better put… I used to relate.  

Like any dream you want… when you truly want it… when you truly truly want it and are ready to grow in the ways you need to to bring a dream to life, this was something I had spent so many years trapped in a negative headspace about. 

One thing that was essential was allowing help to be offered and accepting offers of help, not just asking for it. If your aim and focus is to ask for it, you’re still (in true independent person style) shouldering the weight of the burden yourself. “If I need help, I need to be proactive and find it, ask for it, fight for it.’ And, of course, there is a place for that and many circumstances don’t afford you the luxury of potential “passive receiving”.

But I want to put this ideas out there as it’s often skipped… when you receive help, your load is lighted… and it is actually lightened. It’s not a deal with the devil and engineering that way of thinking and feeling about what will happen if you receive help, keeps you in your safe, independent space.

Being open to the lightness of receiving help, just being open, is a baby step towards your dreams and your growth and ways of solving problems in ways you just can’t come up with if you want to take yourself further than… you can take yourself!

Well, for now I’m going to savour the solutions the coach and hypnosis allowed to emerge. I wish the same lightness and warmth to you too.