Why identifying your feelings correctly is essential for your success.
A new month approaching, I recently had that bubbly excitement deep inside at the thought of the ‘oh so satisfying sensation’ of a fresh start.
The past month brought a bunch of new unexpected challenges, as all do. I did ok given the circumstances, but before the month was over I started to feel relieved and went back to planning and creating a new plan for the upcoming month with a myriad of tasks and to dos that, if executed, my life would be in order and I’d feel so satisfied about my progress and excited about all the new creations I was bringing into the world.
Then the 1st of the month arrived. Then the 2nd of the month. Then the 3rd of the month and things didn’t line up and I wasn’t able to even begin implementing my plan.
And then I went global…
Will it ever happen for me? Has all my work been in vain? Am I on the right path? Why don’t I push harder? Life can be so difficult. I have so many dreams and I’m not making them happen.
And on… and on.
And then I stopped for a moment. And I listened. And I was able to call the feeling by its name.
And the feeling was disappointment.
I was disappointed. I was disappointed I wasn’t able to do all the things I had planned because I love the direction I’m on so much that I can’t wait I’m so excited. I want to have all the things I want to create already in the world and be sharing them, developing them, talking about them, savouring them and on and on and on.
I think it’s so important to call a feeling like disappointment by its true name because then you can see your world isn’t falling apart… you’ve absolutely on the right path.
Look, setbacks happen. It’s inevitable. We all know that in theory, right? But when they happen there’s an emotional impact which, undefined, can cause more distress than necessary.
So, you know I named it, I calmed down, simply felt the disappointment and got centred. Then the 4th of the month arrived, I got back on track… and am steaming ahead… and loving it!
I hope this was helpful and it’s encouraged you to stop to identify the feeling, whether disappointment or something else. Try your best not to go global… take a moment… you’ll get back on your path soon enough… it’ll all work out!